Emotional abuse is a very serious thing. Many times it is overlooked because some think that its not “that bad.” However, people can stay in emotionally abusive relationships for years, silently suffering, while everyone thinks that it is okay. Before experiencing it myself (I might make a post on this later), I thought that emotional abuse was very straightforward and obvious. This is not always the case. The waters of emotional abuse can be very murky. Sometimes people don’t even realize that they are being emotionally abused until months or years after entering a relationship. Here are some of my tips (from personal experience) on how to use mindfulness to heal from emotional abuse.
♢ Take time for yourself. Self-care is super important, and after being emotionally abused and having your needs invalidated and overlooked, it is even more vital. Read my post on self-care for more.
♢ Surround yourself with positive people who make you feel good. Your friends should be supportive of you and be there for you no matter what. I think that it’s better to have a few close friends than a lot of distant, uncaring ones.
♢ Remove the negative people from your life. This doesn’t have to be a process that hurts their feelings, but it often can be. If you no longer want a person in your life who has been dragging you down, find a polite way to tell them that you’ve moved on. There are many ways to do this, but I find that a nice letter or meeting with them can clear things up.
♢ Meditate. Meditation might take a while to master, but it’s definitely worth the time. The practice of meditating helps to ground the mind, as well as keep things more in perspective. If things seem to be spiraling out of control, take time to meditate. I’ll make a post on meditation soon as well.
♢ Make sure that no one treats you poorly. A rude comment on the street sometimes isn’t preventable, but if a person close to you isn’t being kind, let them know that you deserve better. If they can’t accept this, then they shouldn’t be in your life.
♡ Here are some great meditation sources to explore the concept: