It can be very easy to seek safety in other people when you are anxious. I personally find a home to be wherever my loved ones are. This can make it difficult to be alone sometimes. I have trouble maintaining my anxiety without being around my parents, friends, or boyfriend. Facing myself alone is a great struggle for me. Yet, I manage. However, when I am without my loved ones I find myself missing them so much that I cannot focus on my own self. I spend all of my time worrying about when I will see them next, and none of my time thinking about myself. This is something that I think a lot of us need to work on. Below are some mindfulness tips that may help with missing loved ones.
- Remember that they love you. The person or people that you are thinking about are probably busy at the moment, and they will get back to you as soon as possible. Don’t think that they don’t care about you because they aren’t there.
- Find methods to occupy yourself while they are gone. You can read a good book, do some writing, clean your house, and so many other things in the mean time. Put on some music and do some origami. Refer to my previous post (link down below) for origami tips. I find origami to be a great mindful practice.
- Respect that they might need time alone, just like you. Everyone needs time to themselves in order to relax.
- If you are feeling particularly lonely and affectionate toward a specific person, make them a craft or some sort of card to show them that you love them. You can give this card to them the next time you see each other.
- Spend time with other loved ones while they are gone.
- Dance. Dancing is always a lovely distraction. It is a unique form of expression and can be good exercise as well as emotional release.